These are my observations of men at my workplaces, on the bus, and just walking their small dogs along the street. That’s totally a commonplace thing now, btw, big tall men with small dogs. Just look around, or watch this story. I think it’s super cute.
I have a soft spot in my heart for men who I see and sense are being their true selves or are yearning to have the courage to be so. It’s not easy being a man and how can it be (I can say this with some semblance of truth, in that I’ve spent many other lifetimes as a man)? I can honestly say I’m grateful to be a woman this time around; I can wear anything I want, whether it’s a dress or a man’s suit and I’m not expected to go off and fight in wars or break up a street fight (although I could do these things if I wanted to). It’s okay if I cry in public – no one is going to make fun of me.
Traditional roles of men and women have changed so much over the years, but it seems more changes are happening at an accelerated pace. When I’ve attended spiritually minded workshops or healing circles, the majority of the attendees are women. I’m always drawn to the one or two men who show up and I honour their presence and the balance they bring to the room.
When I was a teenager, I was sexually assaulted by a man and it took me a long time to forgive him, and myself for not speaking out and valuing my voice. There’s been a strong imbalance in our world; the pendulum was way off to one side for a long time, and it’s important that we don’t let it swing the opposite way. Balance brings peace.
Women are feeling much more empowered than ever before. It was this Me Too movement that triggered me to heal those old wounds.
Women can be sensitive and empowered at the same time. I’m honouring those men who are brave enough to be seen by others as both soft and strong too. Those qualities are in all of us, no matter which gender we ascribe to, if at all.
Btw, since I love crystals so much, I love seeing that men are wearing crystals. If you are one of them, I see you.
This is picture of my partner, who I know has literally felt like an island for much of his life. He’s the type of guy who will be walking along the street, then make a sudden pivot and go back a few paces to check on that dried out worm stranded on the cement. Many times, I have witnessed him put the worm on the grass and pour a bit of water from his water bottle over it. He’s a sensitive, emotional, generous, and heart-centred man who has experienced bullying growing up because he didn’t fit into the typical role society says a man should play. There are so many others like him. I see you. Be true to yourself and trust that the world will change.
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